Welcome to Heal Your Early Imprints: Enchanted Beginnings: Couple's Work

Enchanted Beginnings: Couple's Work

Preparation Before Pregnancy
Healing for Pregnant Parents
Healing Your Baby In the Womb (before birth)
Tips for Empowerment in Pregnancy & Birth
Integrating A Difficult Birth

Preparation Before Pregnancy:

If parents heal their own early wounding, ideally before they conceive, their children do not have to carry those imprints. Yes, it is possible to say 'It stops here!' and to re-pattern those early trauma's, diminishing or completely stopping their further influence in your family ancestry.

The new science of epigenetic's has now proved that although we may not be able to alter our genes we can alter their expression, and pass that change on to our children.

Naturally, when we contemplate pregnancy and parenthood, our own experiences with our parents will come up. Imprints from our own journey into life will be present in our experience of conceiving, gestating and birthing our own child. If our mom was stressed out throughout her pregnancy, it is quite likely that we will be too. This is not a conscious decision, but is an unconscious imprint stored in our cells and our limbic brain. It is possible to become aware of our early imprints, and to make different choices. We can build new resources that help us to come into the present, instead of living out of old imprints.

Become aware of your early imprints, ancestral influences, and any other issues that may be of concern as you venture into parenthood. Prepare for the new person coming into your lives. See the conscious conception link under Karen's Writings for further thought provoking information, and you may find some books of interest in the Bibliography. Top

Healing for Pregnant Parents:

You are probably already having thoughts, dreams and feelings about the way you were parented as you contemplate becoming a parent yourself. There may be experiences that you had with your own parents that you do not want to repeat with your own child. Imprints from your own journey into life are often activated during pregnancy and birth.

Heal yourselves as part of creating an optimal womb and birth experience for your baby. It doesn't have to be a repeat of what happened to you.

Birthing: Unresolved womb, birth, and other traumas, can come up in pregnancy and effect the opening up and letting go necessary to give birth naturally. Past traumatic imprints can manifest in the present and distort your perception of what is happening in the moment. Self-healing before birthing helps clear the way for baby and creates the space for a joyful, positive and empowering birth experience for the whole birthing family. Top

Healing Your Baby In the Womb (before birth):

In an ideal world a pregnant mother would have a stress and trauma free pregnancy. The reality is that we live rather stressful lives, and sometimes ongoing stress, or traumatic events are present during pregnancy. I offer the pregnant family an opportunity to heal these experiences before baby is born. When prenatal trauma and stress are resolved and relationships are repaired before birth, there is a higher chance for a good birth outcome. This process also increases bonding in the pregnant family, which can only improve the birthing experience. For example, if at the discovery of your pregnancy there was a period of time in which one or both of you considered an abortion, healing and repairing this with your baby as soon as possible will ensure that he/she can finish their gestation period feeling safe. Or, if you are going through a hard time together in your relationship during your pregnancy, I can teach you some parenting skills that will help the whole family, make repair with your baby, and offer you a clearer way of having your life with all its normal stresses, etc and taking care of your baby at the same time. Top

Fee: $80 per hour

Tips for Empowerment in Pregnancy & Birth:

Support yourselves by making intentional choices about all aspects of your pregnancy, birth and parenting. Nutrition, your environment, and your ability to choose, and receive, the right support are crucial. Becoming a parent is a time for opening and expanding, both into what parenthood means for you individually and as a couple, and into creating the space for a new life. It is natural at these times for your own prenatal and birth experiences to surface, and for your experiences with your own parents to be remembered.

During pregnancy you are in one of the most creative times of your life, a time in which you may feel inspired to create in other ways! Try writing, poetry, art, or learning something new, focus on what inspires you and nourishes you. Talk to your baby and listen to her/him too (see Karen's Writing's: Prenatal Parenting: Bonding with Your Unborn Child). Birth requires the presence of a great deal of trust and a feeling of safety for a woman to open herself so her new baby can come through her, so choose your birth attendants well and nurture your relationships with those people throughout your pregnancy as you prepare (doula, midwife, family, friends, etc).

Your own personal preparation may include some intentional based work to clear past events or trauma’s you have experienced that may get in the way of what you are wanting for yourself now. Be proactive, create the experience you want for your new family, and get the right support. We are not meant to be alone as we go through these big transitions in life, it takes a tribe, and it is important to be with people who know and love you so that you can relax and feel safe. It is only in this loving circle that a birthing woman can open up to the new life coming through her, and feel empowered in the process. Birth is natural. Top

Integrating A Difficult Birth:

Even with the best laid plans, intentions and preparation birthing is an unpredictable event which can take its own direction. It may not turn out the way you hoped and this can leave a family with all kinds of feelings. Disappointment, anger, sadness, and grief are all normal feelings for a family whose birthing experience did not go according to plan, and who may have had a difficult or traumatic birth. This can cause bonding and feeding problems afterwards, and may cause post partum depression. If a mom is depressed, so is her baby.
After a C-section birth a mom may find it hard to bond with her baby because she is separated from him/her at that crucial time in the first hour after birth when the oxytocin is flowing. If dad gets to be with baby instead, he may be the one who gets to have this oxytocin bond, later making it difficult for the mom to find her place with baby. This kind of role confusion is common in cesarean births.

Those of you who had a home birth planned and had to transport to the hospital may find it particularly difficult to integrate your experiences. Often a cesarean section, preceded by various drugs such as pitocin and epidural/anesthesia's, can be the most devastating outcome for a family whose ideal birth would have been a natural one at home.

Each person was having their own experience which needs to be integrated - mom, dad and baby.

If you have had a difficult birthing experience and are planning to have another child, integrating and healing your previous birthing experience prior to the conception of your next child is ideal, although it is always possible to heal at any point in your next pregnancy. Top

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A Cesarean Birth:
"I felt I never got to do things my own way, at my own pace, and I had become obsessed with this in my life. I have to do everything in my own time! And, I was always waiting for someone to come and 'save me' just like the doctor did, so I didn't have to do it myself. It's always been hard for me to finish things…I realize that this is because I never got to finish my own birth, so I was missing that positive imprint."

"Karen is kind of like an angel - she is patient, delicate, sensitive, thorough and kind yet strong, wise, caring and thoughtful. Her support in nurturing, genuine and sincere. I have felt very well taken care of in her care and council. I highly recommend Karen, and I trust her integrity." Jeff Roth, CEO, Gifted Touch

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