There are many ways that our children communicate with us before conception. Dreams, visions at the edge of sleep, meeting during meditation, a hovering presence, an inner voice, telepathic thoughts/conversations and even moving physical objects to get attention! In The Tibetan Art of Parenting, Ann Hubbell Maiden believes that the baby’s consciousness manifests in the mother’s dreams…. and they are often a way to bridge life in this world with other lives …. “mother may experience unusual dreams as if they belonged to someone else.”

Dreams can also give advance information about the person coming to be born. The unborn child can also communicate with other receptive people in his/her environment - friends, family, co-workers. We are not all able to receive telepathic messages, and the unborn child will use who is available and receptive.

Often in dreams or visitations the child will appear older, e.g. 3 or 6 years old, and multiple experiences may happen so that you really get to know your child before conception.

I felt for many years before my granddaughter was born that I knew her, knew that she would come and that she would definitely be a girl. I waited for her for a long time; at least it felt that way to me although my son was only 23 years old when she was born! We have a very strong connection even though I physically don’t see her very often. I didn’t have a visual sense of her, it was more an inner knowing of her, as if I already knew her and knew without a doubt that she would come.

Many people dream before conception about what their child will look like at a certain age and when they get to that age they look exactly the way they did in the dream. Couples who have no intention of having a baby, or who have even had tubal ligations, will dream of a child wanting to be born to them, and this will have the effect of them changing their minds, even reversing surgery. Clearly these are not your ordinary everyday dreams, they have a clear and powerful message that can be life changing. At the least they offer the opportunity to fall in love with your child right from the beginning.

Pre-conception is an ideal time to be thinking about and assessing all aspects of your life and the changes you may want to make before you become pregnant. These changes could be to your career, emotional/psychological, physical and health, in your home or the location of your home, and in your relationship with each other.

Having a baby is going to create huge changes in your lives, which you will have to manage in the midst of sleep deprivation - loss of freedom, changes in your sexual life, etc.  These changes can be overwhelming, unless you are prepared.

The kind of womb, and family, that your baby comes into is going to have a profound impact upon her whole life. You can both prepare for your new baby by healing:

♥  Trauma’s based in your sexuality/pelvic area such as sexual abuse
♥  Un-grieved or unresolved prior abortions, miscarriages or stillbirth.
♥   Anything else you are holding in your womb - women often hold stress and trauma in their Pelvic Bowl area, and especially in their reproductive system.
♥   Unresolved conception, womb, birth and bonding trauma’s from your own journey’s here, that are specifically likely to affect the way you bring your own children into life.
♥   Relationship issues you have with each other, particularly around becoming parents, parenting styles, and unresolved parenting and ancestral issues from both sides of your families.

The benefits of exploring your own conception, womb, birth and bonding experiences are enormous for both your baby, and for the impact they will have on your own lives individually and as parents. The quality of the conscious parenting you will be able to offer her/him right from the very beginning is priceless. The parenting you received will shape the parenting you will give, even if you consciously don’t want it to! Many of our formative experiences are deeply unconscious and still strongly influencing our lives. You can, with awareness and consciousness, make choices about what you want to pass on to your children.

You don’t have to be perfect to be a good parent. A commitment to your own ongoing healing and consciousness, and to developing and maintaining a good relationship, is a wonderful foundation for parenthood. Develop good communication skills, keep your love alive and be willing to plumb your own depths to create fulfilling lives for your whole family. If you bond with your baby before conception, and throughout pregnancy, and birthing and communicate with her/him throughout, you can mitigate many of life’s stresses and trauma’s for your child.

Books:-
Hallett, Elisabeth; Stories of the Unborn Soul, and Soul Trek
Luminare-Rosen, Carista; Parenting Begins Before Conception
Noble, Elizabeth; Primal Connections: How our experiences from conception to birth influence our emotions, behavior and health
Siegal, Daniel J & Hartzell, Mary; Parenting from The Inside Out - How a Deeper Self Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive,
Dr. Verney, Thomas; Nurturing The Unborn Child - A 9 month program for Soothing, Stimulating and communicating with Your Baby,
Chamberlain, David; The Mind of Your Newborn Baby

The Association for Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology & Health (APPPAH) is a great resource. They recommend many books and video’s covering a wide range of prenatal and perinatal psychology and health subjects, and have a great journal and newsletter.
www.birthpsychology.com
See my web site for further information and links, an my new four part class series beginning Nov. 09 ‘Prepare for Your baby and for Parenthood Before Conception’